Most of us seem to think that the quality of our marriage depends solely on our relationships with our spouse. This is a logical thought because this is true for most of us. The condition of our marriage tends to go up or down depending on how well we are managing our marriage.
While obviously the dynamics between the two of you are important, there is another relationship that matters even more—your individual relationship with God.
Quite simply, connection with God makes us better spouses. Things come out of us that can even surprise us. Things come of us that surprise our spouse. What are these things? What happens when we love God first and our spouse second?
Galatians 5:22–23 (NIV) contains a list of the fruit we bear in our lives when we Love God First. These are called the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Those things describe the spouse most of us want to be.
By spending time with God, just like you are doing in this very moment (well-done by the way), something changes inside of you of that radically impacts what comes out of you.
Putting God first allows you love your spouse in a way you could never love them on your own, and that helps you to become… YOUR BEST US.
Before you reconnect at the end of the work day, pause and pray the prayer below.
God, for the rest of this day, help me to love my spouse in ways that reflect You in me.
“My mind lyrically writing the movements of my breath.
Noticing the unseen to the unaware.
Feeling the need to pen each and every scene which flashes through my mind.
Knowing, I am almost near “thee”.
“There” is the spot I feel
Pulling me near
Seeing the vision intended for truly only one, which is me
Beauty gnaws at me
For what I see
For what is this intended for, shouldn’t
All beauty radiate into the very matter of our core.
Filling the empty space within our breath.
We who share this very unworldly air.
Emerging with any and all who feel upon with knowing.
This might just be worth showing.
Right where it sleeps.
Through the shattered and hidden place of me.
Showing all the folds of me.
The pain of the void in which we see.
It touches the most inner part of me
Dark and twisting it rests
Waiting to be seen.
Light causes such unraveling.
Release of our breath.
Pens the most beautiful dark depths of me
Sending you on a journey through my memories
Pulling and molding the essence of you through me
Waiting to yield the most tender of thee
Sharing the story of which we, “My Love”
Are meant to be
Flowing forever endlessly
Creating thee story in which maybe, just maybe
Others may see, just how sweet a pure Love can be
Freshly levitating to the eye of me
Allowing you to see all that could be
Some may call Destiny
But this is just the most inner part of me
Releasing not only one
But so much more of me
Waiting for your breath
To be penned within the beauty of me
Holding an abundance of acceptance of Thee
For my Trust
You Did see
Allowing to be created
All I see.
The Love that lives in me.”