Being a parent is confusing and relentlessly exhausting. I enjoy each and everyone of my kids.
They are unique in every way. So how am I suppose to parent? What worked for one does not work for the others. Then I have the older ones telling me I love the younger ones more because they see the discipline doesn’t fit the behavior. Oh my lordt. 😑 What works for one child doesn’t work for the others. It’s my job as a parent to analyse, decipher, create, and put into action what will work for each child.
With my oldest son felix 
I explained life like a video game. He understood the concept of levels and challenges to get to the Boss level. How some areas in a person’s character needed attributes in areas they were lacking. He actually understood it in a way that he did amazing through his teenage years. He overcame many situations with the idea of wanting to get to the “boss level”. When he was younger and would throw a fit, I would tell him to draw.He used his art to overcome his emotions. Now he’s on the path of using his art.
He is kind and thoughtful to everyone he meets. That alone is the biggest most important lesson he could have learned!
Then there is Ysabella [oldest daughter,17].
When she was a baby she hated having her hand-held. She always had to do things herself. A bit like myself in that way.
But again I tried to explain life the way she would understand it. She is so eager to move out and start her life. So I basically said….”you want to be an adult then, let me see it. Stop acting like a spoiled little girl and start working towards your goals“. I gave her much more freedom as long as she can follow a few simple rules. So with her I had to give freedom and trust.
Be home by curfew, leave a note if your leaving, dishes two days a week, make sure school work is done, and be kind to everyone in the house. She is so empathetic and loving.
😉 she got a great job at the hospital, is doing great in her online high school and is acting much more reliable. (fingers crossed)
Which brings me to the third child. 🤔
Lilliana  going on 45. She walks in everyday from school and announces herself, “Mama, Golden child’s home“. No joke, everyday.
So you see where I’m going with this one. 😶
I haven’t figured her out yet. You would think after 13 years I’d understand the way she ticks…..
She is smart and she knows it. She has always been very grown up in the way she reacts, which scares me at times.
So why can’t she just do the damn dishes. How am I suppose to teach her responsibility. Her biggest issue today is not doing her two days of dishes. So I gave her the weeks worth…..ugh, again there are dirty dishes in the sink. WHY…..
She comes home from school and sleeps. Then wakes up at midnight does her dishes and home work then back to bed. So technically she is still doing her job, but….she’s a tricky one. The only leverage I have is Wifi. She gets All A’s in school but needs the devices for school so I can’t take them away. Oh, I miss the good `ole days before technology.
She truly is Golden….She has so much love and brings the best smiles!
That brings me to the younger two.
Oliver  and Remi 
Boys…..need I say more. 😜 They get away with everything. Probably because they watch YouTube and learn everything they need to know. Plus they are so darn Cute! The energy on these two could light a city up! I’m exhausted.
So….now that my little rant is over
I am just letting the world know, I NEED A VACATION!!! I haven’t been away from the house in over 5 years. I love my family, I love being a mom, but I really, really could use some R&R. Wheres the Parents Union? Wouldn’t that be nice!
Hello….HR Lady…..where are you?